Do we love love more then love loves us?

Diego Rivera was a notorious womanizer, "Vinny Chase" is always sleeping with some girl, "Samantha" plays the whore, and every celebrity has fucked, divorced or fooled around with every celebrity. So I asked wheres this love thing people talk about? OH MY GOD I LOVE "FAMILY GUY", or OH MY GOD I LOVE RICE AND BEANS, or "I love him but I'm not in love with him" or " I loved you" "I was in love with you" "She loves me" . . . What is love? Do we need love? Do we love love more then love loves us? Deep huh?

Which leads me into my blog. . . .

I get depressed if I'm not talking to a girl, don't have someone to text cute things or get myself worked up when the relationship doesn't go as planned, tend to want to cram 1 years worth of kisses and sex into 1 month just so we can get to that love thing people talk about. For some reason, and I know I'm not alone on this one, I feel like love comes in stages, and the more you spend with someone the closer you think you are to love. Makes sense but if you have been keeping up with my blogs you'll know that I came to realization that the mind is sometimes hotter then the body.

Some people need a man or woman and others like the single life. I personally love, there goes that word, I personally enjoy meeting new people. Some people need to be in a monogamous relationship while others enjoy being promiscuous or a kissing whore. Some rather be in a bad relationship then in no relationship. Some are in relationships because of the sex, or money, or connections or for emotional support or sadly out of selfishness, or pity.

Someone once told me "Why get in a relationship? They always end." This was a while ago and only now is it sinking in. At age 23, after many attempts to force love, have I realized that enjoying someone's time is great. Enjoying different people's time is awesome. Boyfriend and girlfriend is not for everyone. Love is not for everyone. Marriage is not for everyone.

If you are talking to someone and do not know where it is going. . . GOOD. . .leave it that way.
If you enjoy being with that person but wonder if they spend time with someone else. . .STOP . . get that thought out of your mind and enjoy the person.
If this person makes you smile, laugh, grow and drives you then keep them around for they are good for you.
If you can count on this person then chances are they can count on you.

There is no reason to get yourself worked up for silly things, there is no recipe for love, I know this now. Its the little things that will make your life. Enjoy life with as many people as possible. This is not meant to be sexual. If you have a good thing going with someone then continue it, but do not ask " Do you want me, Do you love me , Do you care for me ", chances are you will not like the response, those questions will answer themselves, as long as you enjoy the person for who they are and how they treat you.

I can't tell you about love, because I've never felt it. For anyone or anything. Will I ever?, I hope so. I'd like to get married one day, I'd like to have lil Vics around but maybe it's not for me. Like I said, LOVE is not for everyone, MARRIAGE is not for everyone. But "like" is for everyone. Like someone enough and love will eventually come from it but it has to be mutual so don't push or pull the person, just enjoy them and they'll enjoy you back.

p.S. I think I can stop proofreading, I'm getting better at catching my mistakes while I type.

p.p.s. Thanks everyone for the nice comments and kind words of encouragement. Since I have a few readers now feel free to give me suggestions on topics.

I'm attracted to your mind

When two people meet--lets keep it real--you are either attracted to them or not. Attraction can arise, with the help of some alcohol or a glimpse of cleavage or a thong sighting, and lips might kiss solely out of curiosity but can a relationship come out of it? If you are not looking for a relationship and you are not looking at the person you are currently seeing like that , what are the chances that you would eventually see them as someone you would want to be with?

Which leads me into my blog. . . .

I've been lucky enough to say I do not have a problem talking to a random stranger, nor a hot girl at the bar, or even striking up a convo out of seemingly nothing into a date. I can confidently say I am not shy, do not hide things, am down to earth and think all around I am a "good catch". . . . but can a guy like myself be damaged goods? A CD you burn, or download to share with your friends once a while?

I've been attracted to girls for their breast, ass, face, hair, legs, slammin' body, beautiful eyes, gorgeous hair, silky skin, and luscious lips. I wonder what they saw in me. . . Well lets be honest, you need to be attracted to someone, somehow, to get passed "hello my name is". I wonder how would it be if I were blind. Have I been looking for love in all the wrong places? well not in the wrong places, but for the wrong reasons?

DUH HELLOOOO!!!!

What does it feel like to actually enjoy the conversation? To play off of each other with witty comments and flirtatious remarks. To miss that person because the person you are currently with. . . just isn't cutting it. Now a days is this too unobtainable, not practical? Women like men just want to have fun, not settle down nor be honest with how many people they are sleeping with, or just "not ready", whatever that means.

Believe me when I tell you, sex is not everything. . . . jeez. . did I really just type that?! WoW. Well its not , sex only last for so long, literally and figuratively. After its all done and over with unless you pay her, chances are you are going to have to talk to her. Before and after.

So before you get into another "Plastic Bottle Relationship" think about after sex, whats really there? If you can't answer that, chances are you shouldn't have sex yet.

p.S. I tried my best to proof read.